Opening Words and Greeting
We are gathered here today to celebrate one of the happiest moments in the life of Grant and Aleisha, for on this day they will affirm before us their desire to commit to one another through the vows of marriage. As we gather, Grant and Aleisha ask for your blessing, encouragement and life long support. They are delighted that you have chosen to witness this special part of their lives. Aleisha and Grant not only want their relationship with each of you to continue as individuals, but to take on an even more important dimension as a family as well, that their home may be a place of happiness and comfort. To this moment they bring the dreams that bind them together. They bring particular personality and spirit that is uniquely their own, and out of which will grow the reality of their life together. We rejoice in this outward symbol of their inner union, a union created by friendship, respect and love.
Aleisha and Grant, by your presence here today you express your willingness to enter into marriage with one another. If any person can show just and sufficient reason as to why these persons may not be joined in matrimony, let them now declare reasons, or else from this time forward, keep their peace.
Address to the Gathering
For Aleisha and Grant this is a special moment in the development of their relationship. Through their love for one another, their lives have become richer and fuller and they are both made stronger. Having found one another and established their relationship, they have come here to sanctify it and give it special significance by celebrating it here with you in this place.
Charge to the Couple
Grant and Aleisha, love is something beyond the warmth and glow, the excitement and romance of being deeply in love. It is caring as much about the welfare and happiness of your marriage partner as about your own. Real love, however, is not total absorption into each other; rather, it is looking outward in the same direction together. For love makes burdens lighter because you divide them. It makes joys more intense because you share them. May you trust each other, trust life and be unafraid. May you love each other and offer love and support to those around you.
Question of Intention / Question to the Bride and Groom
The decision to marry requires tremendous trust; trust in yourselves as individuals, and in the strength of your relationship, trust that you will be able, in your marriage, to deal with whatever the future may hold, for you each have become a part of the other’s world, heart and life. And so I ask you:
Grant, do you give yourself to Aleisha to be her husband? Do you promise to love Aleisha without limit, to trust in her love for you, and to nurture your love as it grows through the years? Do you promise to dream and make plans together, to learn and discover together, and to always show Aleisha how much she is loved by you? Grant: I do.
Aleisha, do you give yourself to Grant to be his wife? Do you promise to love Grant without limit, to trust in his love for you, and to nurture your love as it grows through the years? Do you promise to dream and make plans together, to learn and discover together, and to always show Grant how much he is loved by you? Aleisha: I do.
Affirmation of the Parents, Families & Friends
Ladies and gentlemen, would you please stand?
Aleisha and Grant have invited you here because they desire your support and encouragement.
Will you as family and friends do everything in your power to support Grant and Aleisha in their marriage?
If so respond loudly, saying, “So say we all!”
Exchange of Vows
Grant: Aleisha, every special moment in my life, every passionate victory and rare defeat, I have wanted to share with you. All the plans I’ve ever made, whether we were together or not, had you in them. You’re the person I want to share every great moment with. You’re the answer to every question. You’re the person I want to share my world with.
It may never be perfect. But the things that are wrong, I’m willing to spend my life fixing together. Our problems are the problems I want to have. I have always been drawn to you. My life is better with you, and I am better with you. In you, I’ve found someone equally passionate to myself, and equally willing to nurture my passions. And I want that passion: even if it’s harder. Because in you, I have found my soul mate.
No matter what comes, I will be here. I will nurture your dreams; protect you; comfort you and share every good and bad moment. No matter what the years ahead bring, I will only live my days for you. Now and forever, you will be my greatest love.
Aleisha: Grant, when I first met you, I was struck by how it seemed that when I looked into your eyes, I could see the stars. That when you spoke to me, every word had passion and purpose, and when I spoke you listened with your whole heart.
When I first met you, I found in you the part of me that I hadn’t yet discovered. Through the years – the many, many years – that we have known each other, you have been so many things to me. You have been my shoulder to lean on, my co-conspirator, my one true love, and my best friend.
I promise you today that in the many, many years to come, it won’t always be easy – that would be no fun. I promise you that I will embrace every opportunity to learn with you, to dream with you, and to share with you in the most difficult and the most blissful of times. I promise you that the challenges we face will always be important ones, the kind that make us stronger and more beautiful people. I promise to laugh with you and cry with you; to create with you a life of passion and purpose. I promise that my arms will always be a safe place for you. I promise you my heart, knowing that you could break it, but trusting that you will not. Now and forever, you will be my greatest love.
Words over the Rings
These rings in their unbroken wholeness are tokens of your union and of your love. They are symbols of the enduring trust and affection that you bring to one another. May they always remind you that your lives are bound together by dedication and faithfulness.
The Exchange of Rings
With this ring, I join my life with yours.
Aleisha / Grant, you have my heart this moment and always.
The Declaration of Marriage
May these two find in each other, the love for which all long. May they grow in understanding and in compassion. May the home that they establish be such a place of sanctuary that all will find there a friend. And may these two rings symbolize the spirit of undying love in the hearts of both of them. Grant and Aleisha, it is with the greatest of pleasure that I now pronounce you husband and wife.
Grant, you may kiss your bride.
May you be generous and giving with each other.
May you work together to build a relationship of substance and quality.
May the honesty of your communication build a foundation of understanding, connection and trust.
May you respect each other’s individual personality and philosophy, and give each other room to grow and fulfill each other’s dreams.
May your sense of humour and playful spirit continue to enliven your relationship.
May you be “best friends,” better together than either of you are apart.
May your life together bring you both fulfilment and much happiness.
Signing of the Register
Hoisting of the Marriage Flag
Aleisha and Grant, today you have pledged yourselves to a relationship of caring for one another in mutually fulfilling ways. May your togetherness always bring you joy and comfort, and may your uniqueness continue to challenge you to live life with passion. We raise this flag in honour of your commitment here today.
Introduction of the Couple
I now present to you for the first time, Mr. and Mrs. Grant and Aleisha Bonin.
Let us congratulate them on their marriage!